Universal Laws Rule Our Existence
There are universal laws that govern everything, regardless of what we think of them and of our (dis)belief in them. The easiest one every person can relate to is the Law of Gravity, simply stating the "what goes up, must come down". Another one is the First Law of Thermodynamics, stating that energy can be transformed, but can never be destroyed or created. A third one that's fairly common is the Second Law of Thermodynamics (also known as the Law of Energy Decay), which states that -ultimately- everything that is created will deteriorate; moving from a state of order to a state of disorder.
A good way to see where you are in your life today, and taking into account the universal laws, is to assess how satisfied you are with the major areas of your life.
The four major life areas of influence
You can liken these areas in life as four interconnected pieces of a puzzle, that ultimately connect to everything else in the universe. A balanced life, a life in which “you can have it all”, comes together exactly in the middle, where mental, emotional, physical and spiritual practice all link together forming a harmonious life.
spend plenty of time on planning your intent. WHAT is it you want to achieve that is in line with your purpose. Come up with a plan of action. Consider pros and cons, cause and effect relationships. Talk it through with people, do research on it, eliminate or minimise risk, maximise gain. Etc. etc. Use your (left) brain to work things out in advance.
what is the feeling you are after? What emotional state are you aiming for? What is the pay-off of your intent? How would you like to be feeling after your plans have been put into effect? Think about and FEEL the state you want to achieve in advance as well; this will ignite powerful forces that will assist you in achieving your desired feeling.
What is the plan? HOW are you going to get things done? What resources will you use, what time frame are you going to stick to? What are you starting on first off? How much energy is needed? How much recovery time? How will your body cope? Can you handle it? Do you need to toughen up or get fitter?
This primarily focuses on the reasoning, and the purpose, of your intentions. WHY is it you are contemplating what you are contemplating? What value will it serve? What is the higher reasoning behind it all? If you can find a positive intent/purpose behind everything you do, you will have a more fulfilling and happy future.
- My Personal Philosophy
My personal daily living philosophy of life is to do my best at being kind, generous, and helpful.
I like trying to get people to think and to help others grow and develop into the people they choose to be in their lives. I believe people have the innate ability to transcend thier current level of thinking, and be more compassionate, if they are willing to remove the obstacles to their growth. (Self)Doubt, fear and anxiety are crippling influences in the normal pattern of development for people. Life is about growing, changing, and continually trying to find out who one is in their lives. Life is mysterious, intriguing, scary, and at times meaningless. These contradictory qualities of life make it unsettling and ambiguous. Nevertheless, change and progress speeds forward. The rudder in my life, while continually proceeding forward, seems to be the self actualization of people and trying to help them through the wisdom I have gained over my life. I see myself more as a guide than anything else. I really do think that once you believe in something as an absolute, you are automatically precluding yourself from believing in anything that can be shown as the opposite, which means that in some ways a part of your freedom of thought as a human being is forfeited as a result.
Another important tenet of my philosophy is focusing on the importance of spirituality. I believe it is our duty to raise healthy awareness in children and to provide an environment of a healthy relationship. I have grown, struggled, and been very joyful in the most important relationship of my life. I believe a relationship commitment is one of the most important elements to have in ones live to fulfill the growth process. Living with someone else through love and facing adversity together is one of the most powerful teachers in life.
Finding what one loves in life in terms of work and a lovingly committed partner is the most important element of living the good life. Freud said the task of the individual are to resolve the questions in two areas: love and work. I would agree that spiritual fulfillment comes from being happy in both domains.
The spiritual, or rather my transpersonal, element is crucial to my mission or philosophy of life. Without a connection to something bigger than ourselves we are nothing. Being connected to the mysteries of the universe, wondering what we are here for, and deciding for ourselves what holds us together are as important as anything else in life. After all, we are only here for a short period of time. My sense of spirituality is the notion of evolution of self and we are always moved towards some greater fulfillment of purpose. Things happen for a reason because we meet our destiny half way in the way we pursue our existence."
- Transcending Duality And Living With Paradoxes
You are nothing. You are everything.
From one perspective we’re all separate individuals. From another perspective we can see ourselves as a unified whole.
They both hold some truth and meaning. We can say you are everything because at any given point in time nothing exists outside of your perception as to what exists. It is impossible to escape both the tangible and intangible elements of the universe, they are constantly in contact with your being in a multitude of ways. A few examples are the atoms directly touching your skin as you sit, magnetic waves and invisible light waves from the sun passing through you, etc. Through this phenomena nothing can truly separate itself from all of existence. At the same time, we are nothing. Being part of everything in some ways means you are truly nothing as an individual. The idea that we are separate from the universe is more or less a really persistent delusion that we have somehow acquired. And even if we were separate
the amount of matter that you consist of in relative scope to what an infinite universe might contain is mathematically zero.
This is why always being open to being wrong can be so powerful. You create a dynamic persona that cannot show weakness because when you truly let go of yourself, you open yourself to the universe instilling you with the most powerful type of truth. You become a fluid force that adapts to everything and anything on a whim, because your ego and preconceptions don’t get in the way. Having an ego makes people fall hard, stops them from learning the errors of their ways and stops them from shifting the next constructively critical opportunity into a new, more powerful and improved version of their being. Being overly confident with your knowledge makes us vulnerable to clinging onto something false.
Knowing nothing lets us flow into everything. I’ve been around long enough to finally allow myself to know nothing, while simultaneously using everything I know. Take your beliefs and preconceptions, consider the opposite. Hold them both, rise above them. Transcend duality.
- Dealing With Close-Mindedness
When you encounter people who are very close-minded, you’ll often find yourself becoming resistant to the other person’s position. You think the problem lies with the other person, but if you define it that way, you’ll beat your head against the wall in frustration. The real source of your frustration is your own resistance, not the other person.
The lesson in such situations is to learn unconditional acceptance, which comes about when you begin asking questions like: Why do I feel such resistance towards close-minded people? Why do I feel the need to convince them of anything? Why do I have such a strong need to be right? What part of me is experiencing this resistance? Is it possible there’s any shred of truth in the other person’s position?
As you explore these questions, you’ll begin to uncover the part of yourself that is resisting what the other person represents to you. Then you can consciously decide if you wish to continue holding onto that resistance or let it go. The more you resist about the world, the more time you’ll spend defending your position.
Resistance comes from your ego. When your ego takes ownership of your ideas, it treats challenges to your ideas as a personal challenge, hence the need to defend yourself as if being attacked. But if you keep your ideas separate from your ego, you’ll feel no surge of resistance or defensiveness because there won’t be any attachment.
You can still deal with close-minded people rationally without emotionally resisting their position. Make an effort to see if you can help them become a little more open-minded without making them wrong. Benjamin Franklin had a great method for this. He would introduce an absentee third party into the discussion whenever he had to disagree with someone. For example, he’d start a sentence with, “How would you respond if someone suggested that ” or “I once heard someone say that” or “Some might say that” or “It’s been rumored that” Then he’d maintain a posture of curiosity rather than defensiveness. He’d put himself and the other person on one side of the table and the ideas on the other side. This would allow him to debate the ideas and be very persuasive while keeping the egos in the room from going to war. No one will put up much of a fight against a third party that isn’t even present. It was also harder for anyone to attack Franklin personally because he didn’t claim ownership of the ideas he presented.
On the other hand, if even Franklin’s strategy doesn’t help you lower people’s shields, then simply accept them where they are and allow them to be. In accepting people unconditionally, you then have to decide if you still want to maintain your relationship to them. In many cases you’ll be able to forgive and release. In other cases you may decide it’s best to move on, such as by making a job change or letting go of an intimate relationship. Wanted or unwanted, you’re in for a growth experience either way.